I had quite a full day today, you see, weekend here in Dubai starts Friday - this is everyone's off day from work (not the usual Sat-Sun weekend). Friends came over the house this morning and we had our usual cell group meeting and enjoyed lunch together.
The topics discussed today were very interesting, very thought provoking. We covered a lot of points in our discussion, one topic touched was on forgiveness. What we all commonly agreed upon was that forgiveness is not an easy matter to deal with. It is but natural for any person to struggle with forgiving an offender, the deeper the hurt caused, the more difficult it is to forgive.
From my own experience, what I have learned is that forgiveness is a decision, it is not dependent on the offender's admittance of his wrong, neither does it depend on apologies extended, nor on that guilty person's reaction to your act of giving absolution. Unforgiveness is like a baggage that can weigh you down and keep you from moving forward with life. Have you ever found yourself in this situation: checking-in at the airport counter and discovering that you exceeded the allowed weight limit for your flight, hence, you need to decide on whether to drop them or just pay the fees for the extra weight. Instinctively (and unfortunately), almost everyone of us have the common tendency to choose to pay for the "excess baggage". This actually is a good illustration of what happens when we don't forgive. Grudges, hatred, resentment, bitterness, unforgiveness - these are like "extra baggage", you can choose to drop them or carry it along with you, in deciding to do the latter, you must of course pay the price. The "exceeding limit fees" being - stress, sleepless nights, restlessness, having a heavy heart, etc., all taking a toil on our mental and physical health. I know it's easier said than done, but when we forgive, we actually do ourselves a favor, and for our own good, despite how difficult it may be - we must let go and release ourselves of being prisoners of ill feelings. Decide to forgive...depend on God's grace to help you with forgiving...then enjoy the peace and freedom forgiveness brings.
We forget that forgiveness is greater than revenge. People make mistakes. We are allowed to make mistakes. But the actions we take while in a rage will haunt us forever. Pause and ponder. Think before you act. Be patient. Forgive & forget. Love one and all. If you judge people, you have no time to love them. -- Mother Teresa